Borderline & Codependent “Dance” For Control
Borderline & Codependent “dance” for control is at the heart of trauma bonds. Both the person with BPD and the person with Codependency, consciously and in ways unconsciously are trying to control each other.
I’m not saying that Codependents do what Borderlines do it that Borderlines aren’t responsible for abusing Codependents. What I am saying is why is it that so many with Codependency think, feel, and/or believe the “borderline made me do it, feel it, not be able to help it …”
Just as Codependents want to hold Borderlines accountable and personally responsible for their “stuff” I wonder, why do so many with Codependency not take their own personal responsibility for their “stuff” (Not saying BoD stuff and Codependent stuff is the same)
What do you think? Borderlines going to keep blaming Codependents while Codependents (aside from what Borderlines are responsible for) continue to want to blame them for everything.
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